Life isn't simple as pie. No crust protects life. Childhood would be the crust. Adulthood would be the fruit filling, gooey, sweet, complex, and unstructured.
Adulthood is using adult tools, organization, structure, and order to arrange life. Every person harnesses their imagination to materialize answers to questions the require an answer. Yet their education, their upbringing and world view is placed years before. No light bulb flashes and no eight ball will (everytime) give you the right answer. We find by fastening tools together from learning, experiences, and the hope we are right. There is no caller ID of choices telling us to pick up or let it ring. If there isn't care for the pie then we can eat a bad meal.
Many times that pie isn't enjoyable, it just becomes tolerable. When people decide upon a tolerable pie they become just stuck. Today we see people take pie that's tolerable: marriage, careers, and religion. So instead we call them relationships because marriage seems to serious, jobs because careers are for life, and phases because religion seems to definite. It doesn't seem people give much more than a taste to each pie they come across any more. Marriages fail at an alarming rate, few people stay with a company any more or pursue a passion, and religion fades in and out of life as quickly now as hair color.
Sex is a prevailing reason for relationships, salary hunting instead of job hunting and being self-absorbed is our new American way of life. No where will you find me advocating to get a divorce if you married for sex, under the influence, or in Las Vegas but maybe it is time to reconsider how you got a miserable slice. If your job is less interesting maybe it's because dollars do not make interesting work (unless you're a banker). Religion I'll leave alone since I am not a religious person but do believe the world would be a better place if we exercised the golden rule: 'Treat others as you would want to be treated.' Then in life, it might be a little smoother.
If you feel there's nothing to do at this point, remind a child life is made of imagination. It isn't made by easy choices and quick results. It is made through years of hard-work, innovation, and creativity. Those will keep your marriage interesting, career fresh and you successful. It might even help you tackle the question of "Why am I here?"
If we all did that, we could all have our pie and eat it too. With a smile.
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